People can live through similar events, and yet, how they experience them can be completely different. While the pessimist is left feeling dejected and even hopeless, the optimist is energized by life. Speaking of life’s opportunities, my optimistic wife says: “The door is always open.”
Optimism is a vital competence for successful leadership. Based on the research of Martin Seligman, what is briefly outlined here is his famous ABCDE method for optimism through life’s setbacks.
A: You face Adversity
B: Your Beliefs about this experience are either positive or negative thoughts
C: The Consequence is that you have either positive or negative feelings and actions
D: Learn to Dispute any negative thoughts
E: Experience the Energy
As an example, you try to deliver a humorous speech, but you don’t get many laughs. You say to yourself that you’re just not funny and you have made a fool of yourself. This leads you to feel embarrassed, humiliated and dejected.
Instead, dispute your thoughts by saying that you did get some laughs, and almost everyone enjoyed the first punchline. You also fulfilled your client’s request to put some serious content in the body of your speech. You have made great improvement in the pauses before your punchlines, and you can continue to improve on your surprise factor!
How does your ENERGY level feel now?
As my wife says, “The door is always open.” To my eternal optimist and dear wife Nadia, Happy Birthday!
As we support you to be the most effective Leader, EQ How has grown again. Whatever your Leadership goals – whether you want to be in the top 10% or overcome a specific leadership challenge, whether you lead an organization or a team, or whether you’re people oriented or technically inclined – we have a Leadership Coach for you.
What makes our team unique is that in addition to having Executive Coach training and corporate experience, all of our coaches are certified in EQ, which is statistically linked to Leadership Success. This means that we can support you on any of 27 competencies such as Influence, Collaboration and Developing Others.
Contact us for a free initial session, and let us know if you prefer your Leadership Coaching in English, Mandarin or Cantonese. Skype Video coaching is also available for overseas clients.
On June 26th 2014, Salim Ladak spoke to over 100 executives and actuaries at Asia Pacific’s annual Insurance Industry event about the importance of EQ to Leadership Development. Offering perspectives for high-IQ financial analysts on Getting Promoted to Success, Salim is quoted as saying:
The reward for high performance is getting promoted. However, the focus on individual performance is then replaced by the responsibility of leading a team. And that requires a whole different skill set!
Select the Testimonial from the Society of Actuaries (SOA) or view the above venue at the Conrad Macau, Sands Cotai Central. Opening with a story showcasing the success factors for leadership, Salim engaged the audience with the spotlight on three EQ competencies:
For further information, visit our Speaking Events page. Below, Salim Ladak receives his Competent Communicator (CC) Award at Dynamic Toastmasters in Hong Kong on July 31st 2014.
Due to increasing demand for our Leadership Development (EQ) services, EQ How is now hiring in Asia Pacific (HK, Singapore, Tokyo). Our services include Speaking Events, Leadership Coaching, Experiential Workshops, Leadership Consulting and EQ Assessments.
As a premium brand, we seek seasoned Executive Coaches with management experience, credentials from Accredited Coach Training Programs, and “Big Two” EQ Certification in either the EQ-i 2.0 or the ESCI. Other requirements include fluency in English and local residency.
For Hong Kong, Cantonese is also preferred. For Shanghai-based professionals who meet these requirements, we are interested in discussing potential partnerships. All qualified candidates are invited to submit their CVs to hr@EQHow.com
EQ How is delighted to add Chinese services to our Leadership Development portfolio. We have added Mandarin and Cantonese language skills to our Leadership Coaching team while hiring for “Big Two” certification (EQ-i 2.0 or ESCI), management experience and foundation in an Accredited Coach Training Program – a rare combination in Asia.
Complementing our Leadership Coaching services, we are pleased to provide Mandarin EQ Assessments from Multi-Health Systems (MHS), who continue to add languages to their reports. Select Contact for further information on Coaching, Workshops or Speakers for Leadership Communications.
Growing up in Toronto, I first encountered public speaking when I ran for VP Student Council in grade 6. While I lost the election with just one poster and no flyers, everyone remembered the speech! I didn’t know it then, but I had found my creative space.
Emotional Expression is one of several EQ benefits to public speaking. Multi-Health Systems (MHS) describes this as “expressing feelings both verbally and non-verbally.” For effective communications, you need congruence, as otherwise Albert Mehrabian’s famous research finds that only 7% of your words are received.
Later in 1987, I embarked on community public speaking; client and work presentations followed after university; and eventually, I found my way to teaching, training and then my own Leadership Development business. I took the unconventional route of finally joining Toastmasters after 100 speaking venues across 5 countries.
In Hong Kong, I discovered like minds at both Centraler Toastmasters and Dynamic Toastmasters. We refer to the Toastmaster journey – finding your authentic self, being open to peer feedback and learning together. With TM best practices, I have watched as those once fearful of public speaking have truly become confident communicators.
Self-Confidence is one of Daniel Goleman’s EQ competences, which he describes as “knowing your abilities and playing to your strengths.” While I bring leadership & life experience, I am learning to extend my versatility and practice humour & storytelling for my Speaking Events. Many Toastmasters take on leadership roles at the club, area or division levels.
Another EQ benefit of public speaking is Interpersonal Relationships, which MHS describes as “building and maintaining relationships”. You speak to your peer group, and in addition to sharing feedback & social events, there are opportunities for integrated meeting roles such as Toastmaster of the Evening and Table Topics Master.
Below, Centraler Toastmasters wins 3 awards at the Area K1 contest in Hong Kong (Ruth Benny, Salim Ladak & Sean Lin).
After 18 months of Research and Development, EQ How is excited to launch our EWMs – Experiential Workshop Modules! The starting premise of our design was what are the problems with even the most popular training programs and tools. Here, we list the major training issues:
The problem with mainstream corporate training is that it doesn’t engage learners. Struggling to show meaningful results in the workplace, trainers who just try to be interactive no longer meet the bar. As executives learn by doing or through activities, the E in EWMs stands for Experiential.
There are two varieties of training requests from corporations. The first type is interested in what vendors provide off the shelf or in their portfolio. The second type seeks a custom design to meet their unique needs. To address the needs of both types, the M in EWMs stands for Modules – 27 to be exact.
On June 26th 2014, Salim Ladak, CEO of EQ How, will be the onstage Speaker at the Society of Actuaries (SOA) Asia Pacific Annual Symposium, to be held in Macau. This 4th Annual event for global actuaries and professionals will focus on the theme of “Breaking New Ground: New Skills, Techniques and Trends.” Registration is now available through SOA.
Salim’s onstage topic is Getting Promoted to Success. Beginning with the satirical Peter Principle that people tend to get promoted to their level of incompetence, he will illustrate how and why Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can enable actuaries to succeed as they take on roles of increasing leadership. Competencies that support their climb up the corporate ladder include influence, teamwork and collaboration, conflict management, developing others, being a change catalyst and inspirational leadership. Salim will share stories and highlight examples based on the two leading EQ models – the EQ-i 2.0 and the Daniel Goleman Competency Framework.
Salim recently spoke on Leadership Success to 130 managers at PMI Hong Kong, where he posed below for a photo with Anthony Tsui, VP Programs (Select Testimonial).
On February 27th 2014, Salim Ladak, CEO of EQ How, will be the Guest Speaker at Project Management Institute (PMI) Hong Kong on the topic of Leadership Success. Registration is open to the public through PMI Hong Kong (SOLD OUT on Feb 18) and a description follows:
As a Senior Manager, Manager or Project Manager, key leadership competencies include influencing others, being a change catalyst, collaboration, conflict management and developing others. In fact, the higher up you are in an organization, the more vital are these EQ competencies to leadership success. This seminar will explore these competencies by drawing reference to the two leading EQ models – the EQ-i 2.0 and Daniel Goleman – and by sharing insights gained from the guest speaker’s extensive background in leadership development, consulting and management.
Happy New Year! In Part 2 of our series covering joint research from the Human Capital Institute (HCI) and Multi-Health Systems (MHS), we expand on the importance of EQ to Leadership Development.
In their report entitled “Leadership and Emotional Intelligence: The Keys to Driving ROI and Organizational Performance”, they found that “organizations that value and widely use Emotional Intelligence are 3.2x more likely than other organizations to have effective overall leadership development efforts.”
When they further explored the ROI of different methods of integrating EQ, they discovered that the greatest impact on EQ occurs from Leadership Coaching. The following identifies the overall increase in EQ performance between organizations that do or do not use these methods:
Their research is based on an online survey conducted in April – May 2013 with 784 respondents representing more than 500 organizations worldwide. The complete study is available from HCI or MHS.
EQ How continues to provide our Hong Kong and Asian clients with the best solutions for EQ and Leadership Development. For further information about EQ or Leadership Coaching, kindly select Contact from the menu.